Response and relationships since 9/11

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“Revenge is the easy way out, but it doesn’t do the vengeful person any good.  Revenge just perpetuates a cycle. I don’t want revenge, I want healing.”  Rachel North, survivor of the 7/7 bombings in London

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The 10^th anniversary of the 9/11 attacks has filled much column space and air time in the media this week.  These range from personal recollections of people caught up in the horrific events of that cloudless morning, to debates on the outcomes of military intervention in Afghanistan and Iraq.

The invasions and regime change in these two countries were part of what George Bush dubbed the “war on terror”.  The 9/11 attacks were seen as security issues; only a military response could guarantee the safety of America and its Western allies.  This set the tone for the decade ahead.

How effective has that response been?  It has succeeded in preventing any further attacks on American soil, which was its foremost objective; however, Al Qaeda bombs have taken many more civilian lives in Bali, Madrid, London, Amman and other cities across the Middle East and Asia, especially in Iraq.

Major investments in security and surveillance technology at airports and borders have caught a number of would-be terrorists, but the average American or European does not feel much more secure than ten years ago.  In part this is due to the rise in fear and suspicion of Muslims in general, compounded by the way that military, religious and political issues have been conflated over the decade. 

What of the cost?  The post 9/11 wars in Afghanistan, Pakistan and Iraq have cost 225,000 lives (of which 31,000 were military personnel and their contractors), and $4 trillion has been spent by America alone.  This is 100 times more than the $43.4 billion spent by the US on official development assistance to those three countries over the same period.

Every country has a right to defend itself, by force if necessary.  But the use of force over the long term to tackle underlying tension usually ends up exchanging one set of problems for another, and is hugely expensive in economic and relational terms.

Looking ahead, the threat of terrorism can be viewed as a security issue or a relational issue.  If the resources spent on trying to make the post 9/11 world safer could lean more on the relational side of the equation (e.g. educating people on the difference between moderate and radical Islam, promoting Christian-Muslim dialogue, or investing more in the development of some of the poorest Muslim countries), then a more sustainable peace could be built – between nations and between ordinary people alike.

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A panel discussion at Harvard on Tuesday agreed that the 10^th anniversary of 9/11 is an opportunity for the US to move away from a military-driven response to a policy built on “diplomacy, outreach and persuasion”.  Read a report on the discussion here.

Walk the talk

Using threats and even force at home or work can sometimes bring about compliance in the short term, but at the lasting expense of trust, respect and understanding.  Are there any on-going tensions that would benefit from patience and careful listening on your part?

The last word
From the Bible, Proverbs 15, verse 1: “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

After the riots, back to school

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“The poor suffer twice at the rioter's hands. First, his destructive fury scars their neighbourhood; second, the atmosphere of accommodation and consent is changed to one of hostility and resentment.” President Lyndon B Johnson

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As children and teenagers return from their school holidays in Britain, the riots in August will be a major topic of conversation.  The scenes of chaos and looting bring home the truth that a society which aspires to both freedom and security depends on ample amounts of both trust and self-restraint.  We commented on the relational aspects of trust in an earlier Friday Five; the flip side of trust is self-restraint.  This involves accepting that right and wrong exist in an absolute sense – it’s not just about getting caught – and choosing the right when the opportunity presents to do otherwise (such as a walking past the smashed window of a mobile phone shop, when others are helping themselves). 

Basic moral standards are formed for better or worse in children through parenting at home and the socialisation process in the community – especially at school, and in faith groups.  Values are both taught and caught, and good relationships are both the method by which those values are transmitted and the fruit which they produce.

This reinforces our conviction at Relationships Global that working to improve relationships in public and private life is not a ‘bolt-on extra’ – they are a fundamental part of any healthy society.  Good relationships, or at least functional ones, are taken for granted when all is well; but when decades of broken families and disrespect for authority erupt into scenes of looting and arson, then knee-jerk reactions about being harder on criminals are woefully inadequate.

On the BBC this morning, the Prime Minister spoke about the need for ‘tough love’ in dealing with those involved in the riots.  The government cannot legislate morality, however; their power is limited to indirect influences on attitudes and behaviour.  What is needed is a broad, grassroots movement committed, over the long haul, to recovering moral standards (here faith communities should take the lead) and rebuilding family and local community relationships in the real world. 

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The Chief Rabbi, Jonathan Sacks, has written a deeply reflective comment on the riots and points towards how social capital can be rebuilt, so as to ‘Reverse the decay of London undone’.  Read this excellent article here.

Walk the talk

Many of the youths convicted following the UK riots have grown up with absent fathers, and are gang members.  One of the greatest needs that all young people have is for real conversations with adults they respect.   Might you help meet that need for any children (perhaps your own!) who lack quality time with an adult? 

The last word
From the Bible, Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Aid, Africa and relational distance

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“Don’t only give your care, but give your heart as well.” Mother Teresa

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Drought in the horn of Africa is causing a mass exodus of families and communities from their homes and lands in a desperate attempt to avoid starvation. The response to East Africa’s worst drought in 60 years has been generous; the World Food Programme reported a surge in donations this week, and the Disasters Emergency Committee appeal in UK has just passed £30 million in private donations.
 

Against this backdrop, there has been controversy in Britain over the size of the government’s aid budget. Since 1997 successive Labour and Conservative governments have been pursuing the UN target of giving 0.7% of GDP in aid. David Cameron is under fire for increasing the aid budget at a time when almost every other government department is required to make the largest spending cuts in decades.

Detractors argue that much official aid is badly spent, and since the cold war ended, there has been a growing commitment to overcome the corruption, waste and excessive bureaucracy that have blighted aid programmes. The new concept of ‘smart aid’ focuses on transparency and delivering results for the poor, demanding better accountability to both taxpayers in rich countries and to the poor in low income countries.

Western aid is deeply rooted in the Judeo-Christian tradition of compassion and solidarity with the poor. This kind of giving increases the wellbeing of donors as well as recipients – but it hinges on the degree of connection between the giver and receiver. Citing statistics such as 12 million people being threatened by drought in East Africa may get our attention, but personal stories, of families with names, are far more likely to create a sense of connection across the thousands of miles between readers and drought victims.

Reducing the ‘relational distance’ or gap between donors and recipients is one strategy for making aid more effective; it can motivate donors and also hold aid agencies more accountable. How might this principle be applied to official development assistance?

First, the number of intermediary institutions could be reduced to ensure more money ends up with the final beneficiaries; secondly, taxpayers might be allowed to nominate an NGO from a list to receive that part of their income tax which goes to the aid budget and thirdly, perhaps some of the bilateral aid (government to government) could be decentralised to the level of city to city; ‘twinning for aid’ could open up many new avenues for people to engage meaningfully in helping the 1 billion people who live in absolute poverty today.

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Jamie Drummond of the campaign organisation ONE argues in favour of Britain’s aid programme and suggests how it could be ‘smarter’. Read the article here.

Walk the talk
We give to charity appeals as a response of compassion or perhaps to relieve our consciences; might you narrow the relational gap with your giving and make it more personalised? Sponsoring a child, a family, a school or a community are all options for using your money not just to meet a need but to build a lasting relationship, which though remote, is still real.

The last word
From the Bible, 2 Corinthians 9:7 “Each of you must give what you have decided in your heart, not with regret or under compulsion, since God loves a cheerful giver.”

The third crisis of public trust

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“Advertisements... contain the only truths to be relied on in a newspaper.”  Thomas Jefferson, 1819

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Today’s Economist writes about the third great crisis of trust in British democracy in as many years: first the banks, then members of parliament, and now the news media.  Rupert Murdoch’s media empire has come under intense public scrutiny for its unacceptable journalistic practices, sparked by information that the phone of murdered schoolgirl Milly Dowland was hacked for the News of the World.

This unravelling story reveals the power of the media over both police and politicians, leading to all three institutions being vulnerable to dishonesty and corruption.

Every society is built on trust, and every person needs to be trustworthy.  Yet greater integrity is expected from politicians, the police and the media, which is why their failure to meet the public’s ethical standards is so distressing.  Not that those standards are always clear or consistent; newspapers publish what their readers wish to see, reinforce their prejudices and titillate their curiosity about the private lives of public figures.  But when an invisible line is crossed, approval can turn quickly to indignation and outrage, which is causing the seismic cracks at the heart of Murdoch’s News Corporation.

Why is trust so important?  It is what prevents us from having to do everything ourselves.  Trust is believing someone else will act correctly, and so is inherently relational; trust enables us to hand our children over to teachers, give our vote to a politician, relax while the pilot flies the plane, put our money in a bank account, and share roads with other motorists.  We do these things without anxiety because we believe that the others involved share our values, will act responsibly and look after our interests.

With any loss of trust, relational capital diminishes. Society becomes poorer as more time is taken drawing up detailed contracts and regulations, more funds are spent on security, surveillance and policing, and health declines because people grow more anxious. 

Trust matters in a relational world; that is how ‘a little bit of phone hacking’ can ultimately bring a media empire to its knees.

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Mark Scholefield authored a report reviewing the value of trust in the world of work and business; it explains the benefits of trust, the influence of culture, and explores when trust is not an asset.  You can download “A Guide to Trust” from the Relationships Foundation website here.

Walk the talk

It is easy now to point the finger at unscrupulous journalists, but are we also reinforcing the gossip culture behind their deeds?  We may not read tabloid newspapers, but whenever we listen in to a conversation, or glance at someone else’s email or letter, that’s also an invasion of privacy.  Can we clean up journalism without addressing our own habits?

The last word
From the Bible, Luke chapter 16, verse 10: “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.”

Covenants and crises: Greece and the Eurozone

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“If a man owes the bank £1000 and cannot pay, it is his problem; if he owes them £100 million and cannot pay, it is their problem.”  Anonymous.

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The prospect of Greece defaulting on its debt was postponed this week, as austerity measures intended to save €28 billion over 5 years were approved by the Greek parliament.  Attention has now shifted from the relationship between Greece and her main creditors to the tension between the Greek people and their own government.  Two days of rioting in Athens this week show their deep antipathy towards sweeping tax rises, job losses and spending cuts that lie ahead.

What makes this crisis so significant is the nature of political commitment that underlies monetary union.  Citizens of each country adopting the euro entered a covenant with the people of other Eurozone nations.  Covenants require a high level of trust and discipline, as they bind people’s lives and destinies together for better or worse.  Every country joining the euro pledged to keep their economy in alignment with the others – most importantly by ensuring government deficits stayed under 3% of GDP to ensure the stability of the whole Eurozone.  Yet Greece’s annual deficit averaged 5.4% of GDP between 2000 and 2007, even before the financial crisis began.

In a covenant, there will always be stronger and weaker parties, and the former will offer protection and support when necessary to the latter.  But that should never be taken for granted.  The Greek government has maintained a large, inefficient public sector, and cannot expect indefinite subsidies from other Eurozone countries; equally, the rest of the EU cannot lightly turn its back on covenant parties in need.

Notwithstanding who ends up paying for Greece’s present mountain of debt (or those of Ireland, Portugal and Spain), the future of European monetary union is clearly a relational issue.  As with marriage, being bound by a common currency means both richer and poorer nations must continuously choose solidarity over independence, discipline over profligacy, prudence over risk.  Each country must accept the costs of such a union if they are to share in its benefits, whether defined in economic or relational terms.  

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In 1998 the Jubilee Centre published a Cambridge Paper considering whether Britain should join the euro; it selects seven biblical principles pertinent to the issue of monetary union and considers the arguments in the light of them.  You can read the paper here.

Walk the talk

Although none of us has lent money directly to Greece, the financial institutions which hold our savings and pensions might have done so.  It is good to know what those we entrust with our money actually do with it, so why not make a request to your bank to see how exposed you are to Greek debt?

The last word
From the Bible, Proverbs 17, verse 18: “It's poor judgment to guarantee another person's debt or put up security for a friend.”

Debt and more debt: student loans and family formation

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“Education is the best provision for old age.”  Aristotle

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Results of a survey of teenagers in Britain this week show that half of them are less likely to apply to university due to steeply rising tuition fees.  The British government will allow universities to raise maximum fees from £3300 to £9000 a year starting in 2012; two thirds of institutions say they plan to charge the full amount.

Proponents of raising tuition fees and making students pay for them through loans make an economic argument.  Graduates earn more with a degree, so can repay the debt from their higher salaries (under the new rules 9% of everything earned over £21,000 will repay loans, and any balance will be written off after 25 years). 

However, this ignores the relational implications of loading students with high levels of debt.  In previous generations, graduates in their twenties would have saved up for two major events: buying a house, and getting married/starting a family.  These two milestones are now reached later, due largely to the rising ratio of house prices to salaries, and the tendency to cohabit or marry later.

With rising student debt, those who still go to university will take even longer to buy their own home or start a family.  The delay in family formation puts greater pressure on women than men, as their remaining fertile years become fewer, and the health risks (to both mother and child) of having children in their late 30s or 40s increase. 

The cumulative impact of these factors will be to reduce birth rates; one long term consequence will be fewer people of working age to support retired people – adding fuel to the fire of the looming pensions crisis.

Raising tuition fees and leaving students with high levels of debt may save government expenditure in the short run, but even in purely financial terms, the collateral damage to relationships may end up costing the nation far more than it saves now.  The relational loss in terms of postponed marriage and fewer children is impossible to measure.

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The changing trends surrounding patterns of cohabitation and marriage in the UK is a research concern of the Jubilee Centre; their latest report, ‘Cohabitation: an alternative to marriage?’ has just been published and can be read here.

Walk the talk

Although irresponsible use of debt is behind the global financial crisis, it is still seen as a solution of choice to a range of economic problems.  How might you help your family or colleagues to recognise the long term consequences of debt and to explore other solutions instead?

The last word
From the Bible, 2 Corinthians 12 verse 14 “…after all, children should not have to save up for their parents, but parents for their children.”

Allies and rivals: lessons from the Blair-Brown relationship

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“It is the privilege of posterity to set matters right between those antagonists who, by their rivalry for greatness, divided a whole age.”  Joseph Addison (1672-1719)

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Documents leaked to a pro-Conservative British newspaper last week provide evidence that several of the current leaders of the Labour party were involved in a campaign to oust Tony Blair and replace him with Gordon Brown as leader of the party – and therefore Prime Minister – back in 2005. 

The present Labour leadership have dismissed it as “ancient history”, but the documents have once again cast light on the chronic tension between the two most senior government leaders from 1997-2007: Prime Minister Tony Blair and his Chancellor Gordon Brown.  Despite the oft-repeated statement that all was well, the actual relationship between the two men – whose combined leadership was crucial to governing the country – was ‘volatile and sometimes ferocious’, to quote a BBC journalist.

Backstabbing has been a feature of politics at least since the Ides of March in 44 BC, but there is always a high cost when those who are charged with leading a government (or any organisation) are fighting for control of the levers of power. 

In democracy, the relational art of compromise is a political necessity; no one person has all the insight, wisdom and experience to take the best decisions for wider society.  Dictators prove that daily. 

The ability to listen carefully, to forgive, to emphasise a common purpose, to practice humility, and to recognise what is best in others are some of the relational qualities needed for effective leadership.  By the same token, envy and selfish ambition in a senior colleague are a toxic growth that should be weeded out, or it may bring down the organisation.  The same principles apply from the home to the board room and all the way to Downing Street.

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Rivalry has continued to characterise the top of the Labour party; Ed Milliband narrowly defeated his brother David to win the leadership election last year.  A review of the recent book by Dorothy Rowe on sibling rivalry, ‘My Dearest Enemy, My Dangerous Friend’, can be read here.

Walk the talk

Ambition is good, but it needs periodic refining to rid it of the subtle but corrosive influence of envy and jealousy.  Do you need to examine your own heart for this?

The last word
From the Bible, Matthew chapter 12, verse 25: "Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand.”